Once you become a parent you are faced with the harsh reality that life is not about you anymore. After becoming a mom I tried desperately to have my old life plus maintain somewhat of a new existence with my first son. Things were difficult at first but we managed and actually had a great life in Chicago. Then two lines showed up on a pregnancy test last year and I knew life would change yet again. At first we thought: we can handle this, right? Live in Chicago, raise our kids in the city we love?
Unfortunately we were wrong. As many of you know Chicago is expensive…freakin’ really expensive! Add two kids in the mix and unless you’re Oprah, it’s a struggle. A struggle we decided ultimately was not worth it anymore. Selling my kidneys on the black market to pay for daycare or living on an insanely tight budget didn’t sound too appealing to me. So what came next for Kari you ask? Big changes. Ones I am still battling to come to terms with.
We moved our family to Ohio. Yes, you read that right. I moved from living in downtown Chicago to a suburb in Columbus, Ohio. The dreaded burbs. My family along with my husband’s family is there and it’s nice to have them around to help with two kids now that my youngest is seven months old. I also can’t deny we get a lot more bang for our buck here. Do I miss the city? Yes, every day! I miss all the conveniences, the festivals, always seeing people outdoors, the beach, the buildings, and of course the breathtaking views. In Ohio, I love now having free babysitters and a basement for all the kid toys, but it has been bitter sweet. My husband and I thought for months about the transition. In the end, we felt it was better for our boys and for our wallets. As my husband said to me, “It’s not about us anymore. It’s just about the kids and what’s best for them.”
It was a hard to pill to swallow as I loved my life in the city. I have hit that point in my life where it has truly set in. Wow! It’s not about me anymore.
I thought I would give an update, as I have not been able to post for a few months while I settled into my new life in the suburban jungle. I don’t have a minivan yet, but I definitely have some more stories to share regarding the differences between the city and the burbs. Until next time –